Re: delicate subject

From: anonymous@medispecialty.com
Fri Jan 19 12:11:20 2001


At Fri, 19 Jan 2001, jackie burgess wrote: >
>Hi Liz, just thought i would respond to your email in regards to painful
>sex. I find that it is painful during BUT more so AFTER the act so much so
>that i usually end up vomiting afterwards, my gp informs me that this is due
>to the nerve endings being the same ones as the ones that supposedly make IT
>enjoyable,not much consolation i know, it has now got to the point where i
>have to inject an anaeasthetic called Instigel UP THERE, five minutes before
>the deed commences, i have to laugh as usually i end up crying because I
>cant even have sex with my husband with out being a failure, my self esteem
>is really low at this point. What makes me angry is that if i was a man and
>i was impotent(sorry to be detremental to men) then i think that i would get
>all the help and support VIAGRA from the medical establishment. but for us
>poor women we are either frigid or neurotic so we cant enjoy sex.I have even
>been asked do you think you need to see a sex therapist?My answer, NO i just
>want to enjoy what should be a pleasure, is that so much to ask, Why cant
>you see that the pain is physical Not emotional???? The trouble is I do
>enjoy sex with my husband i just dont like the after effects, which can put
>me in bed for days.
>Sorry to be so direct but this issue is not discussed openly enough and it
>is a fundamental part of any healthy relationship with our partner.
>hope this helps to know your not alone by a long shot
>
>kindest regards
>
>jackie B England
>

>>----- Original Message -----
>From: Liz <ljuzwiak@rochester.rr.com>
>To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
>Sent: Friday, January 19, 2001 3:12 AM
>Subject: delicate subject
>
>> Hi Everybody
>> I have been reading some postings and I know this is a delicate subject,
>> but I have noticed that some people have been mentioning the pain from
>> having ses, I would like to know if the pain that you experience is
>> during or after, myself I know that the pain seems to get worse after?
>> Just would like to have some feed back. Thanks you are all in my
>> thoughts and prayers.
>> Love liz
>>
>> --
>> Hi
>> I to have alway's had it on my left side, I figured if I could just remove
>the left side of me I would be fine, why I feel it more on one side verses
>the other, but think of it in a positive way, it could be are left and right
>that we feel it, (lol), I know this is not funny but we have to try to find
>some humor in all this or we will be just miserable, thank- god for this
>sight and all the wonderfull people that are here, God bless.
>> The Adhesion Warrior
>>Just a week ago, I had a diagnostic laproscopy to help to determine the extreme pain that I experienced during intercourse. My pain was located exclusively on my right side and the apprehension of intercourse, the act and then the excruciating pain afterward was making my life miserable. I have had this pain for over a year, but within the past 6 months it had gotten much worse. My doctor suggested the diagnostic test and we had also decided that whatever he found, to take care of it during the laproscopy if he could or to do a more extensive abdominal surgery. To make a long story short, he discovered all of the things that he was suspecting...abdominal adhesions (I have had 2 CSecs,2 different hernia repair surgeries, appendectomy and a previous laproscopy), endometriosis and fibroid tumors. I emerged from surgery with a hysterectomy, removal of ovaries and tubes, removal of the previous adhesions and removal of the endometriosis. Obviously it is too soon after surgery to determine if this will eliminate my pain, but I am optimistic. I am recuperating well, not even needing any pain medication except Motrin since my return home and I am going on my second day without even needing Motrin. I hope this was the answer. My thoughts and prayers are with the rest of you who continue to struggle with this awful dilemma. On a side note, my sister has endured YEARS of suffering with chronic back pain and constipation. She has doctored and has been treated with pain medication and laxatives for the constipation. Recently on one of her many trips to the physical therapist, the therapist discovered that doing a "visceral \" massage helped dramatically in my sister's pain and constipation. It was during this massage that the therapist commented on being able to feel the abdominal adhesions. (My sister had a CSec 20 years ago and an emergency hysterectomy 2 months after the CSec). Has anyone experienced similar symptoms....thanks!

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Looking forward to hearing from you, Linda

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