Dewitt, I am a real guy that works in a real power plant that does real heavy duty work. I have worked for a major utility in my state for 20+ years and can hang with the best of them. This is real mans' work, not wimpy computer work. I am good at computers because I am smart and flexible. I have earned a living doing mans work. My wife has had this for years. This is my second marriage and I know it is easier to run from difficult problems than to face them. I have chosen to see things through because I saw the injustice of this disease, and the need to help someone that was being put down by medicine. But I happen to love my wife. If I was a lawyer, I would have sued 30 times. I hate this disease because it took control and decimated a kind, lovable, intelligent, charming and beautiful women, and turned her into a fearful, anxious, weak and solemn victim that sometimes wishes she could end the pain forever. Find it in your heart, and your very being, to help, and persevere in helping your wife go forward and work through this wicked affliction. No one deserves to be left alone with these problems.
I understand your frustrations. Move forward and help Terri. -----Original Message----- From: adhesions@adhesions.org [mailto:adhesions@adhesions.org]On Behalf Of Terri Lynch Sent: Thursday, January 25, 2001 6:20 AM To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS Subject: Re: Terri Lynch From Sally G. /Pacific Coast Wilderness
Dear Sweet Richard, If all husbands were like you the world would be a better place. I had Dewitt read your email also. But, as I said his pride gets in his way. I don't know if he thinks that he is wimping out by talk to someone about it or if he is just that hateful sometimes... I asked him last why would you leave me after the surgery just when I may be able to do the things we used to do and enjoyed doing. Why would he leave me when I maybe the person he thought he was marrying. He didn't have a answer. He did say this morning that we would talk more when he got home tonight. I will keep giving him emails to read so that he may understand more then he does know. Thanks.... Love Terri -----Original Message----- From: Richard Hagen <rsh4799@att.net> To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com> Date: Wednesday, January 24, 2001 4:15 PM Subject: RE: Terri Lynch From Sally G. /Pacific Coast Wilderness
To all those women with men, the men who are tired of supporting and who don't understand, tell them to write to me and I will do my best to help them understand.
It is not easy but it is not fair to leave someone who has chronic problems. This disorder/disease is so misunderstood.
If I can be of help, I will.
Richard -----Original Message----- From: adhesions@adhesions.org [mailto:adhesions@adhesions.org]On Behalf Of Sally Grigg Sent: Wednesday, January 24, 2001 5:38 PM To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS Subject: Re: Terri Lynch From Sally G. /Pacific Coast Wilderness
Terri Lynch wrote:
Hi everyone. I really need some prayers my way. This disease has really gotten to me and my family.I am really trying to get the money to get the surgery. But my problem now is it has effected my whole life.I have only been married a little over a year and my husband Dewitt has told me over and over this week that our marriage is over, that he can't take it anymore. He said he is stressed to the point that he don't care anymore. He is a wonderful man and I understand that I sometime nag when I am not feeling well. I also know it takes two to fight. He is a proud man and will not go to counseling. He has said things that just cause my heart to physically hurt. He did say he would stay till I got the money raised and had the surgery. But, then he said I was on my own. I just don't understand that if he was going to stay through all that, then he wants to leave when I will be back to normal. I just can't take much more. I am so lonely right now. I feel like I am losing everything that I love. Thanks for listening to me. I love you all, and I know I haven't been writing much I am going to try and do better. Hey Chrissie!Love, Terri Dear Terri, I don't have many answers, but I've been in pain so long and my husband for 22 years threatens to leave me too, although I don't really believe him.I found this adhesion site last week and it's been incredible how much better I feel knowing I'm not alone. Pray if you can. Lay down and put your hand over the pain and speak to it. Don't be mad at it, but try to sooth it away. I know that sounds like nonsense but sometimes it does help me. I've had three surgeries, and I don't want to discourage you but they don't always help. Please don't give up.Sally G.