I have written a couple of foolscap pages and placed them in my son's photo album for when he got older. I wrote when he was born and then on the eve of the Millenium. My first writings described his labour, and how much we had wanted him, through to what foods he really liked. The second lot of pages I wrote all the things I loved about him. The way he makes me laugh, and the things I have hopes for in the future. Some of my wisdom that I hope to pass on.
Some other people have read my writings, and thought they were just wonderful. A child always looks for encouragement. This serves as a long lasting one for me. He will have it even if I'm not around ;-)) (Hopefully I will be though !!!!)
I fell in love with your idea. You had mentioned a journal to me once before. But I love the idea for my son.
Secondly, I loved your posting about guilt. Wish we could UN-build that sometimes !! But I thought your words were spot on.
Thankyou for your wisdom and caring.
Talk to you later on icq with some more suggestions for your book title *giggle*
Kisses and Hugs Trace xo
>----- Original Message -----
From: "Jo Eslick" <wallamara@hotmail.com>
To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
<adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
Sent: Sunday, 18 March 2001 9:56
Subject: Re: FOR CHRISSY
>
> Hi Jackie,
>
> I am sorry that you missed celebrating your sons birthday, I too had to
stay
> home while everyone else attended a family celebration. It is a horrible
> feeling.
>
> Jackie, I have found writing very theraputic, it is a great way to let out
> your feelings, sometimes the right place to do it is here. Sometimes some
> of the feelings we express here, should also be heard by our families. I
> have 3 teenage daughters, I have given each of them a beautifully bound
> journal (an excersis book with a cute covering would be fine). In that
> journal I encourage my daughters to write down messages to themselves and
> other members of the family.
>
> When there is an entry addressed to a member of the household, the journal
> is left on that persons bed. When the recipient has read the entry, they
> respond. Ithas been a wonderful experience in our house. Teenagers are
> very emotional and scream, yell, loose their temper (just like there
parents
> *grin*) this is a way for them to apologise in their own time, or just
> express love, dissapointment or what ever. Sometimes we write down
special
> memories, things we have done that bring a smile to our faces. I know
that
> some boys and even some girls might not like this idea, but it doesn't
hurt
> to try.
>
> Jackie, why don't you make a journal for yourself, and write about your
> feelings, how proud you are of your son....how much you love & appreciate
> your husband, sorry that you missed the celebration, the joy of seeing him
> do well at school.....whatever it is that makes you ptoud & love your
> family.
>
> When you are ready, you could leave the journal on someones bed for them
to
> read......
>
> Just a thought Jackie, I hope it helps. You are in my thoughts and
prayers,
> don't give up.
>
> Love, hugs & cheers,
> Jo (Wally)
>