Sally, after what you went through just getting to
surgeory, and then the extensiveness of your
surgeory...I wouldn't expect you to be feeling all
better now. You shouldn't either, nor your husband.
In my opinion you're remarkable to go through all that
and still be supportive to us here at the site during
your recupe. My dr. too stated that I should be 100%
better by now. He's not me...and I am not his other
patients. We all heal differently with different
timing. I do not pay attention to how someone else
says I should feel anymore...I know better
know...through experience, that I am the best judge of
myself. I think when intestines are involved...it's
more than cutting adhesions free and boom!...you're
all better (as my dr states) I think that it takes
them a long time to function again, (not 3-4 days).
If that were so...then I'd not be having digestive and
bowel problems still after 20 days. I think that how
healthy you were before surgeory determines how long
of recupe you'll need. Be patient with yourself...and
ask everyone to have some patience, too. You can only
do what you can do. All my love for a wonderfl lady.
--- Sally Grigg <lostcst@mcn.org> wrote:
> Dear Dawn and Marianne, ...Marianne- that was an > awesome letter. It gave me > inspiration. I've gone through my surgery, now I'm > supposed to be better, but > it still hurts. Patience and the ability to stop > beating up on myself. Dawn, I > hear you through the e-mails and wish I could jump > through the computer and > come and help you. But of course, I can't. I can't > even say funny things or > write a poem. But I can care and pray and be here if > you want to "talk". You > are still young with a lot of living to do. Your > anger is normal. I am trying > to be nice to my husband, but he was so nice to me > during the trip for my > operation that he has used up all of his and now I > get to "pay". But he was > there for me, so I'll try extra hard, but it's > difficult, because it's not how > I thought it would be. There I go again with high > expectations. One day at a > time is all we can live anyway. Dawn, give your > girls some hugs and tell them > how much you love them. It will feel good. I pray > it gets better and easier > for you. Love and gentle hugs, Sally > > > __________________________________________________ > > > > __________________________________________________ >