I am 32 and tried to get pregnant for 10 years,
unsuccessfully...recently having a lysis done...and
knowing the severity of the complications it did cause
to my bowel and my whole way of life...I opt for
health. I surround myself with kids to avoid the
depressions of not being a mother...and steal my niece
and nephews when I can. This is a tough and serious
decision to make. How does your mate feel? I was
surprised to learn my mate "wanted what I
wanted"..."whatever makes you happy". He could be
happy just getting up and going whenever we want. The
financial burdens. The time away from each other.
Genetic issues...we looked at the selfish parts of why
we wouldn't want one...then...flip side...the bouncing
the babys on your lap, raising, loving, giving, the
emotions attached to mother and father hood...it boils
down to one thing, even still...health. What risks do
I place on myself/am I willing to place on myself to
have this? I have made the decision for myself that I
can have a fulfilling life without children as well.
Again, this is a tough decision...I made the one that
was best for me in my situation, the risk is too high
for me. Can your doctor provide you with successful
percentages to help you in your decision? This would
probably allow you to make a better decision for
yourself. Dr. Wiseman has a few statistics on his web
site for reformation of adhesions, another place to
look. All my best. Good luck in whatever you decide.
Love, Marianne
--- Alice <anonymous@medispecialty.com> wrote:
> I'm 39 years old and desire pregnancy. My > reproductive endocrinologist > is recommending a 2nd laparotomy (my first was 7 > years ago) to remove my > 5 5cm fibroids before attempting it. In spite of > the fact that this > surgeon is very skilled and will be using adhesion > barriers, I'm still > being told to plan on using invitro fertilization > due to risk of > adhesions with this upcoming surgery. What is the > chance (as a > percentage) of those adhesions causing serious > long-term pain and/or > bowel obstruction? I'm mostly pain free now and > don't want that to > change! I have to make a decision soon. > > Thanks. > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm
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