Re: My job
From: marianne bolding (ojowojo@yahoo.com)
Mon Aug 13 09:52:14 2001
Jean, Hi. I hope you're getting around o.k. today.
I had forgotten about unemployment until you mentioned
it...thanks.
What's wrong is before diagnosis and surgical
procedures...I was bed sick alot...nausea, fainting,
vomiting, and no bowel movements. I "couldn't" work.
I took two weeks off before surgery...had drs.
documentations, filled out paperwork at the main
office for a 30-day leave-that was approved-to have
surgery. (None the less, the principal would call me
all the time..."Am I ready to go back yet?" even
before my 30-day was up). It was stressing me out
that noone was ever "How R U". But, that's
biz...everything they threw at me...I followed. After
I went back to work...I was having problems with the
diaphragm making me dizzy, I was belching these horid
sounds all the time in front of everyone (I had no
control)...the drs. never wanted to test me for
anything quick enough. The surgery was a battle to
get, and the dang GI to find out why I was still so
sick after surgery. I believe if my doc would have
given me the GI when I asked...they would have
diagnosed that hernia sooner and got me on meds to
control the symptoms....and my return to work would
have been successful. (Though, I still have no
control over the belching--water, applesauce, doesn't
matter what I eat). Last night at 3:30am I puked my
guts out. My chest felt like it would explode. I am
literally exhausted.
I don't know what the school will offer me...I have to
wait for HR to call me and see. However, I feel that
this should be illegal to discriminate against me due
to medical reasons. I'm going to fight them if the
offer they make is unacceptable. My father-in-law is
a lawyer and I am going to talk to him about it. I
think the only way I could have kept my job was to
have returned to work and dealt with the regurgitation
in front of others, the belching (overcome the
humility), and not be embarrassed I have to shit 5-6
times a day all the way up to noon...or not shit at
all and be at my desk cramping up with the hot pad,
let them see I was un-productive due to pain...but,
they would've still used this same excuse to let me
go.
I'm so tired of being blamed that I'm not doing my
best to get better. Tell me I don't come onto this
site and talk about nutrition and exercise up my ass.
It's all I do and think about...I'm sick of drinking
aloe vera juice, and all the dang vitamins, and
watching every little thing I eat, walking and
metamucil every day....but, I do it. I don't need a
soul telling me I "haven't" tried...I called the main
office to see about a 2-day leave extension and they
said it was up to the principal. I called the
principal and he said he had to check with the guy I
had just talked to. Told him I had and what he
said...and the principal completely fakes me out, fake
"get better"...he knew he was going to can me then and
he didn't even have the nerve to do it over the phone.
They know I need the health insurance, too. It's
like a slap in the face after two years with the
school....the extra hours and projects, taking work
home. I need to find out know if they eliminated the
asst. position at other high schools....if they
did...I'll believe...if not, I'm fighting them...I
want to be placed at a completely new school in an
office position that offers medical. I had recieved a
raise for re-classification of the asst. position
while I was on leave...so how could it have been
eliminated throughout all TUSD schools. I think it
was just my school...and just me. I need to find out
though...then, I'll know how to pursue it. I'm so
hurt and humiliated. Cobra is too expensive...and my
hubbys insurance is an extra $300 a month for
me...that's way too much. It's like we have to get
divorced so I can apply for low-income health services
and that isn't going to happen. We make too much
money---but, yet...not enough. You know that drill.
Oh, I'll survive...but, what will it take from me and
how sick is this whole thing going to make me trying
to deal with all the crap that I'll know have to deal
with. That'll be a tough one for Miss.
Sensitivity...just staying tough and strong. I feel
like a failure..facing my hubby, and the family that
didn't understand my sickness to begin with, and other
friends I've worked with, my neighbors...everybody.
I tell myself "Who cares what other people
think"...and I realize that "I care".
You've always been the
best to me, Jean...all your words of wisdom and all
the personal e-mails talking about your life has given
me such insight to you as a person. The insecurities
and adversities of your childhood and your disease
that crippled you as a child, your real and in-law
parents and their abuse, your husbands death. You
inspire me with what you've done with your
life...where you've been and where you are now...you
never gave up...and you've made yourself a success
with your home-based business (they should put you on
Oprah) :-) And mostly...that through it all you kept
your laughter and shared it with others and gave of
yourself to so many people. You're a fighter and I
admire that in you. I wish I could hug you, cry on
your shoulder, as I cry know, and hear you tell me
that I can make it...because I feel so weak inside and
it's hard to find the strength to move forward.
You've been a blessing in my life my fellow
Aerian...even through this computer. Love, Marianne
--- Jean Long <creative@enter.net> wrote:
> Marianne,
> Can't you collect unemployment or other
> compensation?
> I am sure they have to give you that, even people
> who get fired for doing something wrong get
> unemployment.
> Don't they have to give some kind of a notice or
> severance pay or something?
> Don't they give you the option to keep the insurance
> going yourself?
> Doesn't your husband have health insurance where he
> works, if so get put on his?
> I am on my husband's insurance.
>
> Do you think maybe they have another position they
> would let you apply for?
>
> I know it is hard to deal with all these issues on
> top of pain, believe me my life has been one
> disaster after another.
> Hang in there and when you calm down you can better
> think of something to do. You naturally must get
> over the initial shock first.
> You can't bring back what you lost but if you calm
> down and concentrate you may be able to come up with
> a solution or alternative. You have the advantage of
> still being young, educated and pretty......places
> want that. There are alot more places to work at and
> maybe even better than what you had, which shouldn't
> be hard from what I have heard from you.
>
> Look at me..... who wants a 52 year old, sickly,
> uneducated old lady (LOL)!
> JEAN
>
> "A Friend is someone who knows all about you and
> still loves you!!!"
>
> > ----- Original Message -----
> From: "marianne bolding" <ojowojo@yahoo.com>
> To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
> <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
> Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2001 4:04 PM
> Subject: My job
>
> I guess I need to deal with an issue that has come
> up...I received a letter in the mail stating..."Due
> to
> the recent budget cuts at TUSD (TUcson Unified
> School
> District) your position as a High School Finance
> Office Asst. has been eliminated. The Human
> Resources
> Dept. will be contacting you shortly to discuss the
> implications of your job being eliminated." signed
> my
> principal at the high school...my hands are shaking
> like a leaf. I don't even want to tell my
> husband...and there goes my insurance...couldn't
> even
> tell me to my face at work about this...sent it in a
> letter. Dreaded ARD...thanks for ruining my life.
> I'm a mess now. Just when I try to think
> positive...I
> always end up with some more bad news. It never
> ends...first adhesions, then a hernia, now I've lost
> my job and insurance...and almost all hope. LIFE
> SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Marianne
>
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