Having just had the same issues, before my employer
laid me off...I can honestly tell you...there is
probably nothing that you can do to put sensitivity in
the people you work with. And, furthermore, if you
explain ARD to the fullest extent of the pain...they
may see you as a future unreliable employee. Someone
who will be strick with pain at any time...thus,
effecting your job. It seems the more info. I shared
with people the weaker they saw me as being a
productive employee.
If I were to go backwards...I would not volunteer so
much information about my medical issues. I would
also get a note from my doctor stating that the first
few weeks after surgery I will be limited on physical
capabilities, such as "moderate" walking..avoiding
excessiveness. (Tell your doctor that they are trying
to get you to move and lift file boxes...he'll write
you one).
We'd like to think that people you spend over 40 hrs.
a week with (which is more than our own families alot
of time)...are like friends. But, they aren't always.
They are merely business associates. Treat them as
such, if they can't have sympathy in their hearts that
they can show understanding for a fellow work-mate.
Don't be rude or have a bad attitude....just know that
in business we are almost all dispensible and
replaceable. If you give someone an inch, they'll
take a mile. Just do what you can within your job
description...and the things you can't...get your
doctor note to let them know where you stand...maybe
they'll ask questions then.
I even brought in my post-operative report to
them...this was helpful...until I told them the doc
said I'd have an 80% chance of re-occurence and
another surgery. The word un-reliable must have
popped into their heads and they felt they'd better
eliminate my position to avoid further disruptions to
their running their business.
This is all based upon my experience I had in the past
month. Seems sometimes honesty is not the best
policy. Protecting yourself is the best policy you
can have. CYB (Cover Your Butt).
Good Luck!
Marianne Bolding
--- Cheryl <cib72@webtv.net> wrote:
> I was curious if anyone is having the same problem > as I am. I just had > my 6th laporoscopy for endometriosis, scar tissue, > yada yada yada on the > 17th. I worked half days (or tried to) that > following week only to > receive grief from my co-workers. They didn't do > one thing for me while > I was gone, and since I've been back, they have been > quite demanding on > my time and very irritable. I get tired so fast and > am still a little > sore. Not to be a titty baby, but I am not my self > yet. I'm in > property management and it requires quite a bit of > ups and downs and > walking. Does anyone have any ideas on what I could > say to them to help > them understand that I didn't go have my hair cut, I > had my insides > zapped with a lasor and had my stomach slit in 4 > places! Also, am I the > only one this cranky afterwards? Just curious. > > Thanks for listening > Cheryl > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm
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Marianne Bolding
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