Hello Ladies-
I have been following this board for the past several months, and have
never felt the urge to contribute until now. I have responded
individually to certain people that have posted, but not directly to
this site. I just want to introduce my self and also make a few
comments. My name is Maria, and I too am an adhesions sufferer. Over
the past couple of days I have seen somethings posted on this board that
is rather childish. First of all, Im not here to defend anyone or
theyre actions or statements, but I have chatted several times with
Caroline. I have noticed, and if you would like I can point out
specific instances, but I choose not to. All of the messages I have
read from everyone, keep in mind Im not singling anyone out here, are
complaints about physical pain. I know that physical pain is very
debilitating, as I have dealt with all of the same issues as everyone
else. Lets take a moment and look at emotional pain. From what I have
read, The majority of you all have children, grandchildre, ect. Well,
If you would have taken the time to get to know Caroline, she is a 30
year old woman that will never be able to experience the joys (and
sorrows) of parenthood. This woman was diagnosed with a deadly form of
Ovarian Cancer, Stage 3c. If any of you know anything about Ovarian
Cancer, tthe 5 year survival rate is less than 30 percent. Caroline was
trying to get pregnant, when this was diagnosed. Of course she is going
to choose what ever option will gaurantee the best rate of survival, as
I cant imagine what the emotional toll of a cancer diagnosis would be,
and not any one of you can either, no matter how many surgeries you ahve
had, is nothing, Im sure is like being told that you have a death
sentence. Okay, are you with me? Well Consider that you go through with
aggressive surgery, Hysterectomy ect.. only to be told 2 weeks later
that you NEVER had cancer to start with? Now she is left to recover from
the initial shock of having cancer, from not being able to have kids, or
a family and the fact that the whole procedure was in vain. You ladies
need to get out of your self pity, and realize that there is so much
more devastation in emotional pain than there ever will be in physical
pain. Caroline has told me that she would rather live with horrible
physical pain WITHOUT any pain meication, as to be left without ever
being a mother. Rather than continue to dog someone who is obviously
hurting tremendously, with all of your cries for attention, and
justification, why dont you address the real matter at hand? You all say
that you build these websites to help others, I have seen NO help from
any of you, well maybe 1 or 2 (I mean you Kel) only condemnation. So if
you really want to help someone else, why not offer emotional support to
someone rather than all of this "medical expertise"? None of us are
perfect, and we need to consider the source before getting so emotional
about someones cry for help.
One other thing that I feel I must comment on is all of this "prayer"
floating around.. I see prayers for this one and prayers for that one,
well I havent seen any one of you offer any prayers for Caroline, the
one who needs it most right now.
I hope you ladies dont read too much into what I have said here, PLEASE
take me at my word and nothing more. I think we all need to grow up a
little and put someone else before our selves, maybe we would all feel a
little better.
Maria