I believe that we need to form a concensus on how to react to negative postings. My feeling is that if there is an attack on anyone individually or the group as a whole that we totally ignore it and do not respond. (I may need a kick in the butt to remind me as I feel compelled to defend this group and its members.) But, I do have some problems with not responding to some of those posts where the individuals feel ignored. I believe that sometimes we need to hear that we are missing someone who very desperately needs help. I feel that we should look at how they voice this issue to us. If it is handled in a manner that is not attacking, such as Bonnie's was, then we respond. How would we feel if we were in Bonnie's shoes? She was hurting so badly and I believe that she needed to hear that yes, she was having legitimate pain and that yes we really do care. Bonnie made an honest mistake when she wrote to me...as I did the day before. She admitted it, apologized and should now be made to feel as if she is just as much a part of this group as I am. (Bonnie, if you are reading this I am sorry to be making such a big deal out of this...but I do want you to feel welcome) But, should someone write a response that is attacking the group and is very negative I feel that we need to ignore it. You are all right. If we don't respond they will go away.
Thank you for pointing me in the right direction.
Karla
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