At Fri, 30 Aug 2002, Tami wrote:
> >Dear Laura, >If you want to have children someday, Do not let them remove the female >organs. Only if it is cancer. I don't mean to scare you with that, but >only if it is cancer should you let them remove the female organs. I >honestly believe that there is so much they can do for infertility >nowadays. You are so young and if you want a family, make that very >clear to your Doctor. I have 2 daughters 7 1/2 years apart (one is 19, >the other 11) I had endometriosis for years and then because of the >surgeries for the endo I of course got the adhesions. So for more years >it was the adhesions. My doctor finally talked me into the Hysterectomy >when my youngest daughter was 5. I have regretted it ever since. I >always wanted a 3rd child, and hopefully it would have been a son. But >I am too old now, 41, and what is done is done. I was told that I would >probably never get pregnant with the second child. I had surgeries, I >had infertility tests, shots, more tests, and 5 years later I got her. I >prayed so hard and if you believe in God, Laura, anything is possible. >It sounds like just those painful old adhesions that we all have >suffered from. Those can be removed. I don't mean to jump up on my >soapbox, Laura, but if you really want a family someday, you deserve a >family someday, don't ever give up on that. They are truly a gift from >God. And the best thing that will ever happen to you. Don't give up, >you are too young. And remember Laura, just because you were to have a >hysterectomy doesn't mean the adhesions are gonna go away. Chances are >very, very good they will return, unless it's done by a very skilled >surgeon experienced with adhesions. So listen what I am saying, Don't >deny yourself the chance to one day be a terrific mom, if that is what >you want. It can happen. >Your friend, >Tami >Thank's for the response,I am going to make it very clear that they can not remove anything. Laura >At Fri, 30 Aug 2002, Laura wrote: >> >>Thank's to everyone that responded to me. Today started out being >>better,but I ended up doubled up with pain again,and more painful BM's. >>It is getting to the point where I am afraid to eat,and I am losing a >>lot of weight. I am going to call my doc's tommorrow,and try to get in >>and see someone,and beg for some relief. I shouldn't have to beg,none >>of us should,but that is the way it seem's to work for me. I am afraid >>I have infectious colitis again,and I need to get it cleared up before >>my Lap. I was almost in tear's when I read everyone's responses to >>me,it made me feel so good to know that ppl care,and understand how >>misrabel I am. I discussed my Lap with my Mom,who is going to be there >>for the surgery. We don't know what they are going to find when they >>open me up,and my Mom is so concerned that there are major prob's with >>my female organs,since I have not had any children yet,and want to be a >>Mommy so badly. She want's to know what to do if the doc tell's her >>that some of my female part's should be removed,I know there is a slim >>chance of this,but my Mom is a worry wart,and want's to know what I want >>her to do. I trust my Mom 100%,and any decision that she make's I know >>will be in my best interest. If the doc should find a situation like I >>described,would they wait until I wake up,and discuss the option's with >>me? Or would they go on the consent of my Mom? I have only a cpl >>period's a year,and when I do have them,the pain is unbearable. I have >>alway's dreamed of having children. Can anyone offer me any advice? I >>am 25 yrs old by the way. Thanx everyone for all your prayer's and kind >>word's and advice. And my prayer's with all of you that is still >>suffering. Laura