Re: I have some questions

From: Tami (tamitorres@hotmail.com)
Wed Oct 16 00:12:41 2002


Hi Cyndi, My name is Tami. My aunt died in July from a brain anyerisum. This was my second aunt to die this way. They were both sisters. My dad died of a heart attack when he was 39. I was 12 years old, so I can sympathize with you being a child and losing a parent is very devastating. But as we grow older we learn that anytime we lose a family member or someone that we love its always very hard to deal with. I can only tell you what I have learned since my aunt died very recently from the same thing your mom did. An anyerisum is a weak blood vessel in the brain and for some reason unknown to anyone this blood vessel bursts and death is almost always certain. Some people die immediately, as did my aunt. Her doctor told us she was dead when she hit the floor. It was just that fast. Or some people like your mom stay in a coma for awhile before they pass on. Your mom probably did nothing to contribute to her anyerisum, but some of the contributing factors are, smoking, high blood pressure, signs can be excessive headaches. Cyndi try to find someone in your family that will discuss this with you. Tell them that you are 18 now and that you feel you are able to handle what actually happened to your mom. Tell them that you have a right as her daughter to know, for your own health reasons. Because anyerisums can be hereitary, as I've learned. Cyndi go see a Doctor and tell him or her your family history and get a good physical and ask the doctor to explain any questions you may have. I know this is not much, but it's all I can tell you. Life will be hard without your mom, but remember she is with the Angels watching over you everyday, and Cyndi she is still with you everyday and everywhere you go. God took her because he needed her in Heaven, for reasons we will never understand until it is our time to make that journey. Cyndi if you are still having problems with this you might consider talking with a counslor. Sometimes they can be a really big help when you need someone to talk to, or I'm here if you ever want to talk. my email is tamitorres@hotmail.com Take care of yourself, Tami

At Tue, 15 Oct 2002, Cyndi wrote: >
>At Mon, 13 Mar 2000, Mary wrote:
>>
>>At Mon, 13 Mar 2000, toni welsh wrote:
>>>
>>>I have been alittle busy the last few days, abd as usual having a rough
>>>time. I am trying so hard to overcome the depression that comes along
>>>with our troubles and our loved ones. It is getting to the time of the
>>>year when my mom died, and I cannot get past that. I cannot stand
>>>trying to deal with what the drs did to her, if they would have cared
>>>and treated her, I know she would be alive to day.
>>>
>>>I was in the shower to day and burst out in tears, and asked her "Why
>>>mon did you not go the drs, after 26 years!" Oh well, I will make it,
>>>Karla thank you so much for trying to ease the pain we are going through
>>>with my father in law, my husband is in such a state, we went to take
>>>them dinner last night, and he slept almost the whole time, and he was a
>>>VERY active man, hunted, fished, camped every wekewnd, took care of his
>>>4 beagles in the back yard, and never stopped, now I cannot belive what
>>>2 months has done.
>>>
>>>His MRI is tomorrow morning, and we will probably know his alot more
>>>then, thanks Karla, for caring, we all will get through this I hope!
>>>
>>>Toni
>>
>>Toni,
>>I am fairly new to this board and am finding it to be very helpfull. I
>>have read several of your posts and I feel for you. I 2 know about
>>loosing family members and whats it is like to watch them go down
>>hill.My mother took sick when I was 5 ( brain anerisim) and laid in a
>>coma blind, deaf, paralysed, and mute. She stayed this way for 14
>>years. I have some sad memories and some happy ones. I can remember
>>the day my Father came home and explained to us mom was never coming
>>home. I can even tell what clothes I was wearing and also my sisters.
>>My dads Mom helped raise us kids and she passed away when I wasnt ready
>>to let go. I have terrible times around the dates of thier deaths and
>>thier B_Days. What I have found to help cope with this is I sit back
>>and pray. I realize that my Loss is Gods gain. They are both up in
>>heaven and I strongly believe that they are watching over me and my
>>family. I try to remember the good times that we shared and thier warm
>>hugs. The pain of loosing them and watching thier bodys go through so
>>much and in my Grandmothers case so fast and unexpected is still with me
>>and will always remain but I try real hard just to stay focused on what
>>we shared. Remember even though she is gone her love for you is till
>>there. My heart goes out to you and your family. I will say a special
>>prayer for you and your father in law.
>>
>>--
>>Mary
>>
>Well i have a few questions about brain anerisims and i was wondering
>who could tell me about them. Why do they happen and what causes them.
>When i was 9 years old i stayed home from school because i didnt do my
>homework (i said i was sick),when i finally came out of my bedroom my
>mom was lying on the couch andcouldn't move, she could barely talk,
>could hardly hear me and was acting really funny. When my grandparents
>got there, the ambulance took her away, and never again did i see her.
>She died 1 week later in the hospital. My family told me that she died
>from a brain anerisim, but being 9 yrs old i had no clue what that was.
>and the funny thing is, i still to this day dont know what really
>happened to my mom and what she went through,my family wont talk to me
>about it and feel that some things are better off not talked about. Well
>i just turned 18 on sat and i feel that maybe i should know the truth.
>If someone could please help me out here...i really want to know what my
>mother went through and if there is anything i need to worry about.
>thank you, cyndi
>ps, please write me back with any info.


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