Dr. Lyn Los Angeles
>----- Original Message -----
From: "jason h rachal" <arshal@juno.com>
To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
<adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
Sent: Thursday, December 19, 2002 8:13 PM
Subject: Re: This is not adhesion related but need help with in-law problem
> BRENDA,
> YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THE IN LAW THING. I JUST HAD A HYST. AND I HAVE A
> 6YR(GIRL) AND 9YR(BOY) AND THE ONE PERSON I RELIED ON WAS MY
> MOTHER-IN-LAW BECAUSE MY PARENTS LIVE IN TEXAS. EVEN THOUGH SHE KEPT MY
> KIDS WHILE IN THE HOSPITAL PLUS THE OTHER GRANDCHILDREN NOT ONCE WHILE
> SHE WAS FIVE SECONDS AWAY DID SHE BRING MY KIDS TO SEE ME EVEN WHEN MY
> NINE YR. OLD THOUGHT I WAS DIEING. THE NEXT WEEK SHE TOOK THE REST OF THE
> GRANDCHILDREN 45MINUTES AWAY TO THE HOSPITAL SO THEY COULD WATCH A BABY
> BE BORN. I AM GLAD THE BABY WAS BORN, BUT SHE COULD NOT BRING MY KIDS
> WHEN I WAS IN BAD SHAPE AND SHE HAS BEEN REALY ODD AND MEAN TOWARDS US
> EVER SINCE AND KEEPS MAKING REALY SLY REMARKS TO HURT MY HUSBAND AND MY
> FEELINGS. HE SAYS SHE IS JUST OLD. THEN COME TO FIND OUT THE REST OF THE
> FAMILY HAS BEEN TALKING BEHIND ONE ANOTHERS BACK ALSO. SO THE FAMILY
> FUEDING FOR THE HOLIDAY. NOW I JUST SAY I AM FINE AND THE FAMILY TWO AND
> LET THEM DECIDE WHAT WE ARE DOING. MY POINT IS I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE
> FEELING AND EVERYONE SHOULD START THE NEW YEAR OFF BETTER. NO FAMILY
> FEUDING. I DONT KNOW IF THIS MADE YOU FEEL BETTER BUT IT MADE ME FEEL
> BETTER TO VENT WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS THE SAME PROBLEM........NICKY
> On Thu, 19 Dec 2002 20:59:47 -0600 nancebln@earthlink.net (Brenda)
> writes:
> > I have very unusal in-laws and since I can not work because of my
> > problems with adhesions I am the one everyone calls about problems.
> > The
> > story is long but I will try and get to the point. My husbands
> > parents
> > have 2 grandchildren my husbands brothers little boy who is 5 and
> > our
> > son who is 3, they spend 4 days a week with Randy picking him up
> > from
> > school and take him to Walmart and spend at least $30 a week on toys
> > and
> > candy, it took me threatening to never talking to them to get them
> > to
> > spend time with our son, they never ask Jordan to go to Walmart
> > with
> > them or buy him gifts, I even suggested that they just give Jordan
> > the
> > same amount they spend on Randy to put in Jordans savings account,
> > they
> > never repsonded. When the family gets together they smother Randy
> > with
> > hugs and words of praise and hardley speak to Jordan. Jordan loves
> > them
> > and when they do come by to see him he is thrilled. At Christmas
> > last
> > year after we opened gifts and we went home they went to Randys home
> > and
> > took him more gifts. I have always been the person who makes sure
> > that
> > we all get together on holidays and spcial occasions, my husband and
> > his
> > brother have just started becoming friends since our children were
> > born,
> > there was alot of mistrust between them and I can see why it almost
> > seems that their parents pit them against each other. They want
> > our
> > children to be close, but with their parents spending so much much
> > more
> > time and money on Randy, Jordan will eventually notice and he will
> > resent Randy. Also my mother in law hates Randys new step mom and
> > is
> > always trying to blame her for everything that goes wrong, David my
> > husbands brother wants to have Christmas at their house this year
> > and my
> > mother in law is mad because they ask me to tell her, they knew how
> > she
> > would react and I am the only one who can stay calm and not wring
> > her
> > neck. She refused to make anything to bring unless they call and
> > ask
> > her to. I think everyone get s the picture on how things are no one
> > in
> > this family can get along, they are always looking for the bad in
> > each
> > other, and I am the one they call to vent. I want to say a prayer
> > this
> > Christmas about forgiving, trying to look for the good in each
> > other,
> > how our actions reflect on our children, on treating our children
> > and
> > grandchildren equally, that life is short and how much we have to
> > be
> > greatful for. The problem is I am not good at writing this sort of
> > thing and sort of start rambling like I am now. I know alot of you
> > are
> > good writers and if any of you know a prayer that fits my situation
> > or
> > can write one please email it to me at nancebln@earthlink.net.
> > I hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year.
> >
> > Thank you for listening to me.
> > Gentle Hugs
> > Brenda
> >
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