Re: affecting my marriage...over

From: Sharonda Moore (rondamoore@hotmail.com)
Thu Oct 28 08:20:48 1999


Toni,

I am not married and will not pretend to know anything about that. Are you taking any meds like lupron or depo or even bcp's? They can make you very emotional and react sharply to a situation. It may be that you need to take some time out and analyze and think about things. One thing I do know about is keeping things to yourself. I have been on the receiving end of someone that had not communicated with me and when they finally vented, it turned into a physical attack.

You must communicate and get things out, he can't read your mind and also when you talk to him (or anyone - it doesn't always have to be your husband), sometimes you realize things you didn't before and the other person can give you a different perspective on the situation. From my observations marriage does have it ups and downs, you just may have to work your way through this rough patch.

My last suggestion, if you are a spiritual person believing in a higher power - pray.

Sharonda

>From: twelsh1@webtv.com (toni welsh)
>Reply-To: adhesions@obgyn.net
>To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@talk.obgyn.net>
>Subject: affecting my marriage...over
>Date: Thu, 28 Oct 1999 07:55:39 -0500
>
>I hate to write to any of you this morning, but I have no where to turn
>now. My 18 yera anniversary is Saturday, and or relation ship is
>falling apart fsat. I do not think I can deal with this day alone,
>after a awful night last night. I have cried so much, when I got up I
>could not open my eyes, they were not this swollen since grandma died in
>June.
>
>I cannot beleive the way the evening went, first I had my handicapped
>sister and I was trying to bath her, she is 140, and I weigh 97 now, she
>is rough, then her and I came out to the kitchen, and my son went out to
>light the gas grill, when he turned it on and hit the switch, I looked
>out and I saw a huge ball of yellow, and he yelled, and he could not
>see, it happened so fast I did not know what happened. He was fine, but
>it had scared him too. Well, since that happened my husband got angry,
>making fun of me, and out of the blue, I told him I do not love him
>anymore, and I removed my rings, and told him I do not want them any
>more. I do not know why I said this, he has shut me off for a few days,
>but I have kept my dealing with things with me to my self. I would go
>on forever if I talked about this, but I think the marriage is rocky as
>hell, and now I am scared, if I lose my husband all I have is dad and my
>son, his girlfriend who I adore hurt me too! I feel like my life is
>over, as I type this, THE TEARS WILL NOT DRY, I CANNOT KEEP CRYING LIKE
>THIS! WHERE DO YOU GO WHEN LIFE GETS TO BE TOO MCH. SOO SCARED!
>The arguing did not stop most of the night, too long, I am now convinced
>men do not uderstand!
>
>I paged my counselor, and she could not talk and when she called back, I
>missed hercall. Hate to bother them after hours!
>


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