Lgapmon@aol.com wrote:
> Hi Sally --
>
> Boy, you hit the nail on the head. We don't want to live in filth, but our
> options are limited by our bodies and our desire for independence/privacy.
> It's so humiliating.
>
> I have had a few friends offer to come help clean, but do I really want them
> going through my personal things and our laundry? Sorry, can't do that.
> *Sigh*
>
> We had cleaning help come every other week to do the big stuff -- until
> recently...I've not earned any money in ages so can't pay for cleaning help,
> and hubby is not interested in paying for it -- says he can do it himself.
> Yes, he can, but when? Besides I've seen how things look after he cleans and
> he means well, but if I had to grade him on the finished result, it would be
> ugly. I won't tell you how long I waited for him to mop before I finally
> gave up and mopped the floor myself.
>
> You're right, though, I'm probably trying too much too soon. I try but
> sometimes can't help myself. The kids help and certainly can be taught to do
> more. It's summer and they are home now.
>
> Thank you for your thoughts and prayers, I really appreciate them. Am
> sending more of the same your way -- lots of big hugs and chocolate, have a
> happy, pain-free Sunday --
>
> Love,
>
> Lynda M. in AZ
>