Warmest welcome to you, glad you found us.
Due to the personal nature of your question and concerns, I would suggest your using an e-mail where people can respond to you privately. My guess is that several of us share your problem but might not be comfortable sharing with you in the message board format. I would be happy to correspond with you via e-mail if you'd like, my e-mail is janet7k@aol.com.
Sincerely,
Janet