I have enjoyed our many chats on msn, and look forward to meeting you later in the year when I travel to the U.S.A & Canada.
Please don't let these messages of the last few days upset you, I do understand how you feel right now, because I still remember the firsst time it happened after I joined the board. I was shocked & horrified by what was said.... it made me ill, and my pain increased to unmanageable levels.
Shane got angry and insisted that I stop reading the messages on the board because of the affect it was having on me. So I left, I was away for almost a month, and it was aweful, I missed Chrissie & her Guardian Angel, & kcmo Rose with her poems & jokes, I missed Sally, HelenC & Helen D and Nancy and so many others whom I had grown fond of. I felt that I was alone again struggling to come to terms with what had happened to me.
Clare, I had to come back, it was the people here who understood my pain. Where I could complain a little and get back some reassurance and love from my friends.....
If you need to step back for a week or two... sometimes that is a good idea. I have my quiet times too. I sometimes just have so much pain I can't sit at the computer in the office or in bed to answer messages on the board. I have to rely on the rest of you to answer & love & welcome the newbies. This site belongs to everyone, and it is a personal choice how many posts we make, how many posts we reply to, or how many we read.
I love you & respect your opinions, enjoy your comments & as I have already said, love our msn chats. Don't stay away, we all love you....
Love & gentle hugs Jo http://www.bombobeach.com
At Tue, 12 Feb 2002, clare wrote:
>
>I'm a very quite going person and I've never yelled at anyone on the
>internet. So rather than yelling (which is what I honestly feel like
>doing right now) I'm going to beg of you all to stop.
>
>I came to this forum six months ago because I was scared and in bad
>pain. One of the girls on the ob/gyn site recommended the adhesions
>site to me. When I posted my questions everyone was so nice to me! When
>my question was a stupid one noone called me a "dummy" and everyone was
>so polite to one another. I felt welcome and I was so relieved to find
>a place where people finally understood.
>
>Now, I don't know what went wrong with our world, but I'm so confused
>right now I don't understand anything. The last couple of weeks
>everyone seems so easily upset, and I don't know why. Honestly, I just
>wish you'd all be nice to each other.
>
>I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm still in pain. I don't know
>whether or not to back out of my scheduled surgery or not. I don't know
>if I can just somehow make my mind deal with this pain and the nausea or
>not. I still don't understand why it hurts so much sometimes. I'm
>still scared half the time, and I still need people to turn to for
>support and kindness and understanding. I'm at the point that I don't
>think that this is THAT place anymore, and now I don't know where to go
>or what to do to help me deal with my pain. I don't know if I can do
>this on my own.
>
>I'm just trying to say that I'm praying that all this unhappiness is
>over soon, because I can't keep coming back here and getting upset
>because I think people are hurting one another. It makes me feel worse
>instead of better. Please, can we stop this?
>
>Thank you,
>Clare
>
>--
>csheedy
>
-- I am not a medical person, and all my messages are based on personal experience. I am a fellow adhesions sufferer reaching out to help others.