Re: Rita
From: Rita Steele (steelerita@yahoo.com)
Tue Aug 27 18:32:07 2002
Tami,
Working (or trying to) with PAIN really sucks! I hope
you can get everything straightened out. My employer
has really been bugging me to return to work. I went
to Phoenix yesterday & talked to my surgeon. He (thank
goodness) is keeping me on disability, he is going to
set me up with a (good) pain Dr. he recommends. I've
been to two others & they didn't help me at all. The
one in Flagstaff didn't seem or want to know anything
about adhesion pain! I go to Vegas every once in
awhile. Usually to go shopping. My daughter is getting
married in April so I'm sure we will be over there in
the next few months. Lunch sounds like a good idea.
Take Care.
Pain Free Hugs, Rita
--- Tami <tamitorres@hotmail.com> wrote:
> Hi Rita,
> I work for the State of Nevada and we don't really
> have very good
> benefits. We can get Short term disablity insurance
> if we pay for it,
> which I just recently found out about!! I think they
> are going to put me
> on a medical leave of absence now. It's just that
> when I have used up
> all my Family Medical Leave Act FMLA that this is
> what protects me from
> getting fired, and now that it is almost used up I
> am really no longer
> protected by law...At first they tried to tell me I
> could have the
> medical leave its just that after my surgery I would
> have to return at
> four weeks and no light duty. Which I know and they
> know that I am
> going to have a laprotomy, be hospitalized for 5
> days, that the Dr will
> probably not release me to full duty in 4 weeks.
> And if I go over the 4
> weeks they would file a "Separation of Duty" for me.
> And I could have
> my job back but I would have to wait until the next
> opening...which is
> crap....But like I said now they have said I could
> have the medical
> Leave of absence, just need my doctor to write a
> detailed letter
> explaining everything...Of course this was last week
> and things may
> change this week, who knows...
> Well I guess enough whinning for today.
> Kingman is not too far from Vegas, maybe if you ever
> make it over here,
> give me a call and we could do lunch or something.
> Take care,
> Your friend,
> Tami
>
> At Thu, 22 Aug 2002, Rita Steele wrote:
> >
> >Tami,
> >Oh my Gosh, that's exactly what my son said after
> my
> >first surgery. At least you don't have cancer, Mom!
> I
> >feel like you, I wish the medical (& regular)
> >community would take us seriously. Being in pain
> day
> >after day is really a grind, especially when you
> can't
> >get adequate pain relief. I try not to feel sorry
> for
> >myself because my father-in-law has terminal
> cancer,
> >but some days I just can't help it. I'm fighting to
> >stay on disability because I just can't function
> well
> >enough to put in an eight hour day & do my job
> right.
> >The pain just overwhelms me at times. I tried it
> for
> >15 months after my first surgery but I just about
> lost
> >my mind! No more being a martyr. My employer has a
> >2yr. long term disability plan that I have been on
> for
> >almost 11 mos., now. If it weren't for one of my
> >fellow employee's(& friend) I wouldn't have known
> >anything about it. They did not come to me when I
> ran
> >out of sick pay, I had to ask the benefits
> coordinator
> >if we had a short/long term disability plan. Than I
> >had to convince my Dr. that I was in pain & I could
> >not function at work anymore, boy, was that a
> chore.
> >Check with your human resource or benefits office
> to
> >see if they offer any kind of disability plan, they
> >will not come to you. It's worth a shot. I'm still
> >fighting to stay on mine after my last surgery July
> >29, I'm not feeling any better than I was before
> the
> >surgery. I have to go to Phoenix on Mon. to see my
> >surgeon & convince him the surgery did NOT work,
> >something I'm sure he does not want to hear. I wish
> >you luck!
> >Take Care,
> >Rita in AZ
> >--- Tami <tamitorres@hotmail.com> wrote:
> >> Dear Tish,
> >> Hi honey, thanks for the reply. I've been
> worried
> >> about you too. Do
> >> you ever find your self saying at least "I don't
> >> have Cancer". Because
> >> at least they have some treatments for cancer,
> not
> >> always with success,
> >> but at least people are taken seriously. And
> then I
> >> tell myself to snap
> >> out of it, it could be so much worse. I get
> tired
> >> of feeling sorry for
> >> myself. I just wish that for once we could all
> be
> >> taken seriously and
> >> they would find a cure for us all....
> >> I just wish that with as many of us in this world
> >> that suffer everyday
> >> that just once we could hear that they are really
> >> working on a cure and
> >> that people would really understand our pain....I
> >> just want my life
> >> back, as with everyone else on this message
> board,
> >> we all deserve our
> >> lives back !!! okay enough whinning.......
> >> I may end up losing my job over all this. And
> it's
> >> because the HMO's
> >> are taking there time getting me approved for all
> >> the tests I've had and
> >> surgery...
> >> I am really scared. I have used up all of my
> FMLA
> >> leave and don't have
> >> any sick leave left at work. I don't have
> anything
> >> to protect me from
> >> losing my job now. I have wondered if I can even
> >> qualify for
> >> disability. I wouldn't even know where to start.
> >> Anyway thanks for
> >> caring about me. I see the Surgeon tomorrow and
> >> hopefully he can answer
> >> some questions for me. The gastro told me that
> he
> >> was worried about
> >> food getting stuck in this "hole" and that it
> would
> >> cause me alot of
> >> pain if it did. I've lost over 25 pounds,
> because I
> >> have been eating
> >> very soft food. There is just no telling how
> long I
> >> have been like
> >> this, I can honestly tell you that I have been
> >> having right-sided pain
> >> for probably 10 years. After every surgery the
> pain
> >> is always still
> >> there. I think my appendix was taken out about
> 17
> >> years ago. I will
> >> keep you posted.
> >> I hope you had a good day, and that you are
> feeling
> >> alittle better. How
> >> is your mom doing ? I am so sorry for all this
> >> stress you are under
> >> while feeling so crappy...it really sucks...I
> wish
> >> you painfree days my
> >> friend.
> >> Take care and keep in touch Tish,
> >> Love your friend,
> >> Tami
> >>
> >> PS email me your phone number again....
> >>
> >> At Sun, 18 Aug 2002, Tish wrote:
> >> >
> >> >Dearest Tami..I am so glad to have finally heard
> >> from you..and so sorry
> >> >to hear thaat you are still in tons of pain even
> >> with the meds..im
> >> >hoping and praying that you get some relief very
> >> soon..
> >> >I am doing ok..still in some pain myself and
> trying
> >> to adjust to an
> >> >increase on my meds..and just getting back to OK
> >> from Tx where i saw the
> >> >Pain Dr..etc.
> >> >Today was my grand babys 4th B-Day party so im
> kind
> >> of worn out..
> >> >Tami i am a little concerned about what you said
> >> about the Drs saying
> >> >you have a large hole in your intestines...Tami
> if
> >> this is correct..it
> >> >is a life threatening problem you have
> there...and
>
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