BRENDA,
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THE IN LAW THING. I JUST HAD A HYST. AND I HAVE A
6YR(GIRL) AND 9YR(BOY) AND THE ONE PERSON I RELIED ON WAS MY
MOTHER-IN-LAW BECAUSE MY PARENTS LIVE IN TEXAS. EVEN THOUGH SHE KEPT MY
KIDS WHILE IN THE HOSPITAL PLUS THE OTHER GRANDCHILDREN NOT ONCE WHILE
SHE WAS FIVE SECONDS AWAY DID SHE BRING MY KIDS TO SEE ME EVEN WHEN MY
NINE YR. OLD THOUGHT I WAS DIEING. THE NEXT WEEK SHE TOOK THE REST OF THE
GRANDCHILDREN 45MINUTES AWAY TO THE HOSPITAL SO THEY COULD WATCH A BABY
BE BORN. I AM GLAD THE BABY WAS BORN, BUT SHE COULD NOT BRING MY KIDS
WHEN I WAS IN BAD SHAPE AND SHE HAS BEEN REALY ODD AND MEAN TOWARDS US
EVER SINCE AND KEEPS MAKING REALY SLY REMARKS TO HURT MY HUSBAND AND MY
FEELINGS. HE SAYS SHE IS JUST OLD. THEN COME TO FIND OUT THE REST OF THE
FAMILY HAS BEEN TALKING BEHIND ONE ANOTHERS BACK ALSO. SO THE FAMILY
FUEDING FOR THE HOLIDAY. NOW I JUST SAY I AM FINE AND THE FAMILY TWO AND
LET THEM DECIDE WHAT WE ARE DOING. MY POINT IS I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE
FEELING AND EVERYONE SHOULD START THE NEW YEAR OFF BETTER. NO FAMILY
FEUDING. I DONT KNOW IF THIS MADE YOU FEEL BETTER BUT IT MADE ME FEEL
BETTER TO VENT WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS THE SAME PROBLEM........NICKY
On Thu, 19 Dec 2002 20:59:47 -0600 nancebln@earthlink.net (Brenda)
writes:
> I have very unusal in-laws and since I can not work because of my > problems with adhesions I am the one everyone calls about problems. > The > story is long but I will try and get to the point. My husbands > parents > have 2 grandchildren my husbands brothers little boy who is 5 and > our > son who is 3, they spend 4 days a week with Randy picking him up > from > school and take him to Walmart and spend at least $30 a week on toys > and > candy, it took me threatening to never talking to them to get them > to > spend time with our son, they never ask Jordan to go to Walmart > with > them or buy him gifts, I even suggested that they just give Jordan > the > same amount they spend on Randy to put in Jordans savings account, > they > never repsonded. When the family gets together they smother Randy > with > hugs and words of praise and hardley speak to Jordan. Jordan loves > them > and when they do come by to see him he is thrilled. At Christmas > last > year after we opened gifts and we went home they went to Randys home > and > took him more gifts. I have always been the person who makes sure > that > we all get together on holidays and spcial occasions, my husband and > his > brother have just started becoming friends since our children were > born, > there was alot of mistrust between them and I can see why it almost > seems that their parents pit them against each other. They want > our > children to be close, but with their parents spending so much much > more > time and money on Randy, Jordan will eventually notice and he will > resent Randy. Also my mother in law hates Randys new step mom and > is > always trying to blame her for everything that goes wrong, David my > husbands brother wants to have Christmas at their house this year > and my > mother in law is mad because they ask me to tell her, they knew how > she > would react and I am the only one who can stay calm and not wring > her > neck. She refused to make anything to bring unless they call and > ask > her to. I think everyone get s the picture on how things are no one > in > this family can get along, they are always looking for the bad in > each > other, and I am the one they call to vent. I want to say a prayer > this > Christmas about forgiving, trying to look for the good in each > other, > how our actions reflect on our children, on treating our children > and > grandchildren equally, that life is short and how much we have to > be > greatful for. The problem is I am not good at writing this sort of > thing and sort of start rambling like I am now. I know alot of you > are > good writers and if any of you know a prayer that fits my situation > or > can write one please email it to me at nancebln@earthlink.net. > I hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year. > > Thank you for listening to me. > Gentle Hugs > Brenda > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm >