How do you get your family to understand???

From: Sarah (sgoforth@earthlink.net)
Sat Oct 5 12:12:04 2002


I've been suffering since I was 15 w/ adhesions. Actually, at 15 I had a laparoscopy for an infection, then had another a couple of years later for endometriosis. Since then most problems have been adhesions. Had a complete hysterectomy at 27, one laporoscopy since then, and a laparotomy less than a year ago.

My mother says she doesn't know how to help me, or even what to say when I'm so upset at doctors, etc. I've told her about this website many, many times, and have asked her to look at it. She hasn't done that yet. I also ordered a pamphlet a couple of days ago that is specifically for family members, and told her that I ordered it. She basically told me that she's read stuff on adhesions before, and she can't possibly understand what I'm going thru as she's never had chronic pain. I just want her to try, but she makes me feel like it's not worth her time. At this time, I just moved back home w/ my parents due to financial reasons, so it's really hard because I live w/ her, yet I don't feel like I have any support here, which I think realy helps people. She doesn't work, spends her days either on the computer playing games, or shopping, so she has plenty of time. I've tried to tell her how I feel w/ an email, but she acts like everything is fine.

Any suggestions from anyone? Should I just give up w/ her? I just need some support at home, and think as my mother she would want to do anything in her power to help her daughter.

Thanks!!!


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